Saturday, August 21, 2010

Happy Anniversary!

Last Saturday we spent the day on the beach at the Jersey Shore (no, I did not see Snookie) enjoying our last day of our week long vacation (yes, we were on yet another vacation). It was an absolutely gorgeous day and the end to a fabulous week. We rented a house with our friends who have children similar ages to ours and it ended up working out quite well.


So we checked out of the house and headed to the beach for our last day of play in the sand. It wasn’t until about noon that I realized that it was the third anniversary of my breast cancer diagnosis. I was actually taken by surprise. I usually hate August so much that I become immobile, unable to make a plan and then regretting that I don’t have anything to occupy the children. This year, it just worked out that we ended up on a family vacation at the beach.
When I realized what day it was I turned to my friend Kim and said, “Today is the anniversary of my diagnosis.” She calmly replied, “The Radnor Hotel pool three years ago.” She remembered when I told her the day after I heard the news. On that day, I didn’t want to tell many people about my health but I was at the pool with her and the calls from doctors were coming in on my cell phone as we chatted. She was staring at me and wondering what was going on.


“It is breast cancer,” I told her.

“Oh, my God,” it is DCIS, right?

“What is DCIS? I don’t know what that is, I just know that it is invasive ductal carcinoma.”

“Are you sure it isn’t DCIS? It just has to be contained. I just know that it is DCIS.”

“No Kim, it is not DCIS and it is not contained.”

“I am so sorry,” she said and she began to cry.

I was tired of this conversation. I had no idea what DCIS was only that I was sure that I didn’t have it. Now she was crying. I couldn’t understand why she was crying if I wasn’t. It didn’t make sense. Maybe it was because I had taken a Xanax before I went to the pool so I was not feeling particularly sad or anxious at that moment. Needless to say, the crying annoyed me.

A few minutes later, she explained why she had become so emotional. Five years earlier she had been diagnosed with DCIS and was just fine after a lumpectomy and a breast reduction. She had hoped that I would have a similar situation. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case.


So here we were, three years later, quietly sitting on the beach watching the children play once again. Only this day I was feeling quite different. I was relieved to have made it to the three year mark and thinking about the future.

6 comments:

CoffeeJitters.Net (Judy Haley) said...

I love that you can get on with your life to the point that you almost forget the anniversary of your diagnosis. I'm still in the middle of treatment, and that gives me hope. Although, there are moments even now when I forget that I have cancer. Brief moments. But they happen.

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Cheryl said...

'I was not feeling particularly sad or anxious at that moment. Needless to say, the crying annoyed me.'
Jeanne, I just love the honesty of these words.
Look how far you have come? Holidaying with your friend Kim unaware that you have reached another milestone.
Well done! Hugs

Jeanne Marren Egan said...

I think that the farther away from it you get the easier it gets. I did have a crying spell with my husband later that night but all in all I feel healthy and happy(with a little bit of lyphedema from overuse of my left arm). Good luck with your treatments. Your daughter's wonderment with her new discoveries in the world will help you through the tough times I am sure.
Jeanne

Jeanne Marren Egan said...

Chez,
After that day I made a new rule. No one can cry about my cancer unless I am crying!!
I did, however, get teary eyed that night when I went to bed but it was brief.
I am glad that August is almost over- not my favorite month but this year it has been better.

Lauren said...

Happy Anniversary! I'd love for you to share more information about your breast cancer experience at http://www.BreastCancerRegistry.org I think the breast cancer community can benefit a lot from what you have learned over the past three years.

Jeanne Marren Egan said...

Lauren,
Thank you so much. I am registered on the website but I would love to contribute more. I would gladly share my stories about the emotions surrounding disgnosis, treatment and ultimately survival. You can e-mail me at jeanneegan6@aol.com and let me know how I can provide whatever you are looking fo. Have a great day!
Jeanne